Invitational Skills
Being an open-minded person is not the same as sharing personal information, and though I consider myself to be an open-minded person, I still prefer to keep my private life to myself. However, I have two close people, whom I can tell a secret in case I really need a piece of advice or just want to speak out. Nevertheless, I do not share everything to these two people either, because it is essential for me to have a private space.For me personally, to divulge my dearest secrets is like to go against my own principles. If a helper urged me to share this information, it would make me feel completely lost at first, and then would bring me to persuading this person in my strong determinations about keeping my secrets away from everybody.
If my unwillingness to reveal the secret would not stir this person to insist on my telling it out, I would be forced to do it. To say the truth, for me it is difficult to imagine a person of a helpful nature, who will demand me to share a secret, that is why I think the explanation of my strong beliefs would persuade the helper to refuse from making me do what I do not want to. Because keeping some things in secret is essential to me, uncovering secret information would be an intrusion in my life, like trespassing into a private building. It is not that I am a restrained person – this is all about having a bitter experience of telling out secrets to those who asked and to those who did not. That is why, before sharing something dear to me I think twice. If it were my close friend, who asked me to share a secret, it would be much easier for me to do that, just like for everybody else, I think.
Of course, my close friend knows what to expect of me, but still I suppose she would be shocked by some facts, and my revealing that information could have a negative impact on our friendship. I am afraid, her general image of me would be spoilt, and she would reconsider many facts of my life and some of my actions from another perspective. I am almost sure she would be judgmental, and the revealed secret would put a label on me in her eyes. If the fact would really destroy our friendship, I would probably regret telling it for a long time, maybe even for the whole life.What I am confident in is that my close friend would not tell out my secret to anyone else. I know two people whom I can fully rely on – my mother and my close friend, because they have never disclosed any confidential information about me – at least as far as I know. That is why the only reason I would avoid sharing some of my personal information to one of them is …
